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hey this is Leo for actualize org I'm going to tell you how to succeed in life right this is my forte this is what I love to study is success and I'm going to give you about six or seven tips just the fundamentals of what it takes to create a really successful life all right get ready because it's going to be a really powerful quick self-help segment and I go into more depth in other videos so number one on the list is discover yourself you have to have a deep understanding of who you really are in life to have long-term sustainable success and both happiness and then fulfillment right and for me success is shallow if it doesn't come with the happiness and fulfillment component so for me I want to get all of it both the external success and then the fulfillment the lasting fulfillment and happiness that you can get with that I don't want just shallow external success and to do that you need to really understand and discover who you are and you might be thinking well I Know Who I am no you don't most people out there I would say 99% of people do not really know who they are because they have not gone on the journey that it takes to discover that and what I'm really talking about here this is not some abstract notion is you really need to discover what your top ten values are you need to discover what your top five feelings are in life you need to discover what it is that you really want out of life what is meaningful to you and you got to also discover what you don't want and you might say well I know what I don't want I know the things I don't like well there might not be as much clarity there as you think it there is so this is all about a matter of clarity and articulation it's one thing to note Begley it's a totally different thing to actually articulate it write it down and know it very very consciously it's going to clear a lot of things up for you and you can you sit down and do this process you're going to quickly realize that you don't know as much about yourself as you think you do and you probably have had moments in your life that have been like epiphanies where you had deep self discovery maybe it was when you were traveling maybe it was after a breakup in a relationship maybe it was when you were struggling at work you discover things yourself and by going through these these challenging experiences we really discover what it is that we want out of life and that's the foundation successful people know what they want all right the second point is have a life purpose have a purpose to your life life purpose is a very very deep topic that I cover in other videos but here what I'm going to say about it is the fundamentals life purpose is what you want to accomplish in your life everything in your life that you're doing and this is true for all successful people is all their actions on a day-to-day basis on a weekly basis a monthly basis on a yearly basis are leading towards some sort of point they're all converging towards something and they know what that convergence point is for them the convergence point first of all it's outside themselves it's not so much about them it's about something else something bigger than them it's about a sense of contribution and again I don't mean contribution in the sense of you have to be super altruistic and not care about yourself know its contribution in the sense that you get a lot of enjoyment from contributing something positive to the world so the question really is what is the impact that you want to have are you clear on that are you totally committed to having that impact so this could be impact in your family this could be impact in starting the kind of business you want to start and having that business have a certain impact on society whether it's helping people in Africa get more water or helping produce green energy or helping people find find love through like creating an online dating site you know whatever it is it doesn't matter if you're an inventor it's about creating useful gadgets for people to use right or useful inventions if you're a scientist it's about discovering new things about human beings in the world if you're a mathematician is discovering new truth within mathematics if you're an engineer it's about building amazing amazing machines that can help people some sort of positive impact something that you really bought into something that's very important if you have that you're gonna have passion you're going to get motive you can get excited and that's going to allow you to go out there and have the external success that you want that's going to lead to money that's going to lead to prestige and recognition and fame all those things come from having a point outside yourself that you're moving towards and being very clear about it you have to be very clear about what you want to be moving towards next is set big goals successful people set big goals in fact they set gargantuan goals and you have to do that too there's a tendency to say that we want to set realistic goals you might say well I'm not going to set too ambitious of a goal because there's a risk that I'm going to fail well instead what I'm going to do is I'm going to focus on a goal that's realistic that I can attain the problem with that kind of thinking is that a lot of times those realistic goals that we set are under valuing what we can actually do in our lives right you're selling yourself short you don't really know how much potential you really have until you set a very ambitious goal I'm sure at one point you're like you have done that and you've actually been able to meet it or even exceed it and you felt the power of that setting an ambitious goal a big goal is a great way to supercharge your motivation and successful people are very passionate and motivated that's because they set big goals for themselves if you set a weak goal a small goal a realistic goal what's going to happen is that you're not going to get engaged with it you're not going to get excited enough to really go out there and take the action encounter Tooley what might happen is that realistic goal that you set might actually be harder to accomplish than the very very ambitious goal because the ambitious goal has heart to it whereas your weak piddly little goal well who really cares if you accomplish it or not so I can have a big impact on you and so I'm going to have a big impact on the world so have goals out there that are a big that are about not just you but about other people too the next point is hard work you got to work hard if you're going to be successful successful people work their ass off there are no magic bullets there are no real get-rich-quick schemes and there are no real quick shortcuts to success and to a deep fulfillment this is something that you work towards you have to take a lot of action towards the secret to making this work because you don't want your work to be a grind is you want your work to be aligned with your purpose and with your values so that work and play that boundary starts to start to really blur and when you're working you're feeling like you're doing what you really love to do and so you're really passionate about it and the two are so blended that you really no longer make a distinction between your time off and your time at work and therefore you can work really really hard but it doesn't feel like you're working really hard and you can therefore take a lot of action which is necessary to accomplish big goals and you can get them accomplished and you can feel great about them and so it's really like a win-win-win situation but you got to be out there working hard if you're sitting on your ass all the time at home on the couch watching TV you're not going to have success in your life it's just not going to happen there are people out there they're really really pushing themselves and you got to position yourself in a in a place in life where you're pushing yourself hard too and you know what this is where you want to be this is being on your edge this is living an exciting charge kind of life so work hard very important next point do not quit successful people are extremely persistent they do not quit when it gets tough and it will get tough I don't care how passionate you are about what you're doing I don't care how much you love it whether you love it or you don't there's going to be ups and downs in life and whatever you're pursuing whatever kind of big goal you set for yourself especially if you set those big goals they're going to be challenging they're going to require you to grow they're going to require you to step outside your comfort zone and that means emotional labour will be involved that's okay but to it to make sure that you get through that and to get to your ultimate objective of success you're going to have to have persistent and you can't quit when the going gets tough so you know maybe you're working on a project and something's not working out the way you want something slips something fails and you're really tempted to quit and throw in the towel or maybe there's a relationship and you're trying to work it out but it's not working and you're tempted to drop it you're tempted to quit there you know whatever part of your life you really want to quit or drop right now if you're in that kind of point you gotta push through it if it's really aligned with your values and aligned with your purpose if it's not aligned you can you can drop it in fact you should but otherwise you have to be very very persistent if you read biographies of the most successful people throughout human history business leaders social leaders politicians celebrities actors you know that just the underlying theme of all those biographies and all their histories is that they were very very persistent and they were okay with failure in fact most of these people they were so successful because they failed so much that they just couldn't they're successful is inevitable because after you fail thousands of times you start to learn your lessons and you start to get good and the human brain is really really really stubborn and it doesn't tend to learn from success as much as it does from failure so when you're failing a lot don't get discouraged push on persevere go through your hardest moments because those hardest moments that you go through that's where you learn your biggest lessons and those are what grow you to be able to handle bigger and major challenges to accomplish more and more and get that kind of success that you want and these are also coincidentally the proudest moments of your life the moments of your life that you will never ever regret so never quit when you're doing something that's important to you the next point is master your thoughts and emotions this is a more subtle point but it's very very important if you can't master your thoughts and you're always swayed by your emotions you're thinking pessimistically you're thinking negatively you're thinking uncritically or your emotions have the better of you you're always stressed you're always anxious you're always overwhelmed you can't focus then what are you going to accomplish how can you accomplish anything in your life not only are you not going to be externally successful because you're not going to be able to run a business you're not going to be able to hold down a job you're not going to be able to study you're not going to be able to be in a good relationship because no one's want to be in a relationship with you when you like that not only you're not going to have those things but you're also going to feel miserable too you don't want to be swayed by all these negative emotions you don't want to be worrying all the time you don't want to be stressed all the time nobody likes to feel that and you don't want your thoughts going in a million different places you want to be able to concentrate and focus your thoughts so this is called emotional mastery you got to master your emotions you got to master your thoughts that means you got to do some introspection once in a while how about taking up some habits like journaling meditation reading books talking with mentors or having a coach these are great ways to start to develop mastery over your emotions and your thoughts because if you're all over the place you're going to be so concerned about just fixing problems in your own life that you're not going to be able to go out there and take the action you need to take and make the contribution you need to make in order to generate really big success and then the last point and this is one of my favorites and this is one that people really miss out on is study success successful people study success success is not what we naively think is just something that happens naturally to some people and doesn't happen other people success is a very deliberate conscious endeavor that you undertake success is built over months and years and it's done consciously and the more you understand the principles of success the concepts success the more you study people who have been successful the more you see what it really takes and that process of success the principles are not always what they seem and to me this is something that I really committed my life to is studying these principles I really love it it's exciting for me and I really encourage you to get involved with that so that means maybe attending some seminars reading some books watching these videos learning about it maybe joining a group of friends that are successful joining a mastermind group right be around successful people learn how the success process works and learn the psychology of success not the externals of success but the psychology that's what we're talking about all right so I'm going to wrap it up here this is how to be successful in life please post me your comments I love reading them of course like this and share it if you would and check out 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